Now or Never – 3 rules to live by
A person who thinks all the time, has nothing to think about except thoughts. So, he loses touch with reality, and lives in a world of illusions.Alan Watts
We live in the most amazing era of human history in terms of opportunities to achieve our biggest goals yet it is the most dangerous period as well. The comparison trap is just around the corner, or we should say right in our pockets, all day, all the time, everywhere. Our lives are beautiful. We are not inadequate. We just tend to fall for the wrong dynamics. Here are 3 rules to get yourself out of your head and get a big bite out of life.
1. It’s not supposed to be easy
Emotion comes from motion. You’ll never “feel like it”. There will be no “aha! moment” where you have a spark taking you from lethargy to energy. Instead, what will happen, is simple steps. Simple actions. Getting dressed, going to the gym, replying to that person, sending that email, reading that book, writing that line, following that diet, every single day. That’s the only key remedy to the inertia we might feel. And it’s not going to be easy. It’s not supposed to be. It just needs to be done.
Once you find it, you’ll be unstoppable. It’s not even about finding the why, it’s about finding the what first. Then the why will be obvious. Remember that it’s a process that has to be followed. Don’t be afraid of experimenting, failing, being silly or feeling that you’re wasting your time because you’re not. You’re just iterating until you find what’s your jam. You’ll know what it is when you find it.
3. Remember you’ll die
Just remember that time flies and we’re not eternal. We’ll die. You won’t be remembered. After one or two generations, nobody will know your name anymore. Nothing has meaning. It might seem scary but it’s actually liberating because it means that we get to decide the meaning of life. It’s called optimistic nihilism. Because nothing matters, it means that everything and anything that matters to you…matters. Some want to go to Mars, some just want a little garden to take care of and a little puppy. And both are totally valid ambitions! You can get to decide who you want to be, what you want to become, and never feel ashamed or diminished because of these choices. At some point, all of our ambitions and achievements will die with us so we better enjoy what we do and stop caring about what everyone thinks.